Tips : Arguing

How to always win.

Arguing in any relationship can happen from time to time. The fact that a relationship is made up of more than one person makes way for disagreements and differences of opinion. Taking that into consideration we are also imperfect. Those imperfections are inevitable and sometimes someone or something (hopefully unknowingly) disrupts the balance of the relationship. And whether your fault or not it is imperative for an argument to be conducted in a way that maintains an emotional balance that allows each point and party to be understood. I have had my share of arguments (tbh) and the 3 things I try to always keep in mind are :

(1) Active listening – We all want to be heard. How well am I hearing what the issue is? Am I paying attention to their perspective or focused on what I need to say?

(2) Emotional state – We all have feelings and emotions. Am I emotionally stable to talk about it now? How is the overall emotion of the argument?

(3) Positive Point – We all have a point of view. Keep your point straight concise and positive. Now is not the time to go off topic of current matter. Are you using this as an opportunity to bring up old issues?

If your answer to these questions aren’t favorable try to take a moment to rebalance your zen. Arguments can be emotionally driven. So having these 3 points in mind will keep the integrity of the argument and both parties will have the opportunity to feel heard and understood..(hopefully). If you notice the argument is going nowhere reevaluate if this is something that you can resolve without chosen professional help.